I’ve been there. All parents have been there. When you’re on the verge of shoving your face into a chocolate cake (putting it lightly) after your baby won’t stop crying, the kids won’t stop fighting and it just feels relentless. I’ve seen what happens to both parents and children when they go past the verge and lose their cool, it’s not pretty and the problem is there are a few simple things you can do to avoid it.
1. Walk away.
I’m not saying leave for good. A few minutes upstairs where you can scream into your pillow or going outside for some fresh air (take your keys!!) is what you may need to stop you losing your cool. You may be able to tell your scatter cushion in your bedroom that they need to stop repeating everything you say and stop having tantrums, then return back to your kids and be able to phrase it in a better way.
2. Ring family/friends
Venting is good. Venting is key. Family and friends will always listen to you have a vent, even if just for a few minutes. If you’re lucky they may come help out for a little bit.
3. YOU TIME
Having time to yourself is so important so you can take care of your cherubs. Hand your child over to your partner for an hour whilst you have a bath or go out for a drink with friends. Ask the grandparents to babysit whilst you watch a film or get your haircut. Just having sometime to yourself may give you the chance to press the refresh button.
4. Write it down.
No you shouldn’t be shouting at your child that they are annoying you and that you can never return to the supermarket again after his tantrum. However you can write it down in a journal or… a blog? It may give you a safe space to vent your emotions
5. Change of Scenery
Maybe take yourself and your children to a different place.. Anyway different could help change the mood and the tension. Also anywhere with cake is also good for the soul so I’ve heard.
What ways help you stop you losing your cool (even if you don’t have kids)?
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