5 things to do before losing your cool with your child.

Hello huns

I’ve been there. All parents have been there. When you’re on the verge of shoving your face into a chocolate cake (putting it lightly) after your baby won’t stop crying, the kids won’t stop fighting and it just feels relentless. I’ve seen what happens to both parents and children when they go past the verge and lose their cool, it’s not pretty and the problem is there are a few simple things you can do to avoid it.

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1. Walk away.

I’m not saying leave for good. A few minutes upstairs where you can scream into your pillow or going outside for some fresh air (take your keys!!) is what you may need to stop you losing your cool. You may be able to tell your scatter cushion in your bedroom that they need to stop repeating everything you say and stop having tantrums, then return back to your kids and be able to phrase it in a better way.

2. Ring family/friends

Venting is good. Venting is key. Family and friends will always listen to you have a vent, even if just for a few minutes. If you’re lucky they may come help out for a little bit.

3. YOU TIME

Having time to yourself is so important so you can take care of your cherubs. Hand your child over to your partner for an hour whilst you have a bath or go out for a drink with friends. Ask the grandparents to babysit whilst you watch a film or get your haircut. Just having sometime to yourself may give you the chance to press the refresh button.

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4. Write it down.Β 

No you shouldn’t be shouting at your child that they are annoying you and that you can never return to the supermarket again after his tantrum. However you can write it down in a journal or… a blog? It may give you a safe space to vent your emotions

5. Change of Scenery

Maybe take yourself and your children to a different place.. Anyway different could help change the mood and the tension. Also anywhere with cake is also good for the soul so I’ve heard.

What ways help you stop you losing your cool (even if you don’t have kids)?

 

Kay xx

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I'm Kate, a 25 year old going on 40 Northerner and a new mum to baby Pip. I also love taking pictures of my food, singing along to musicals and my dog Ruben. I'm venturing into the unknown world of blogging, so please be kind.

26 thoughts on “5 things to do before losing your cool with your child.

  1. Eat cake, put your headphones in and walk walk walk πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ very practical tips – we all deal on different levels I think ❀️ Cake is one of your five a day isn’t it?

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  2. Such a relateable post! I have been known many times to go for a walk round the block once hubby arrives home to cool down from a particularly challenging day- although I may try the screaming into a pillow next time! I love posts like this so I know we are all in the same boat with this parenting lark!

    Melanie | http://www.frasersfunhouse.com

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  3. My boy is 4 going on 14, there are days my husband and I are at complete lost with what to do. It’s frustrating but we try not to lose our temper. I think 3 and 4 is a terrible age, they have a mind of their own and start testing boundaries.

    Shireen⎜Reflection of Sanity

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  4. Great tips! I don’t have kids at the moment, but would like some in the future so will definitely remember these. I think it’s a good idea to vent haha, whether that is to family or friends or just writing it down and getting it out of your system!

    Amy,
    https://creativenails.uk

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  5. Great tips! I don’t have children myself, but have taken care of younger siblings my whole life, and the same rules definitely apply! I have to say it was always hard for me to walk away because I’m so stubborn and want the last word. But when dealing with a child it’s just not worth it and nobody will come out of winner. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. Thank you lovely! I think they are important whatever stressful situation you are in. I’m the same super stubborn, but if you have you children you have to give it up.

      Kate xx

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  6. It is so important to think twice before losing your cool in front of a child. It hurts them in the long run and I appreciate you giving some tips to avoid doing that! You time is so important!

    Nancy β™₯ exquisitely.me

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  7. I totally agree with the point number 3. I don’t have kids but as much as I love my mom, I always understand that she needs “her-own-me-time” My mom always tells me that it is so comforting how kids understand to let her enjoy her hobbies and everything. she loves I believe I could have that kinda respect toward her because since a kid, Mom been raising us with that important value. We end up appreciating each other and it totally helps the kids not to depend too much on mom, meaning to say be independent and sociable with others. Laaaf it!

    Riana x
    mrianaester.blogspot.com

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  8. I totally agree with the point number 3. I don’t have kids but as much as I love my mom, I always understand that she needs “her-own-me-time” My mom always tells me that it is so comforting how kids understand to let her enjoy her hobbies and everything. she loves I believe I could have that kinda respect toward her because since a kid, Mom been raising us with that important value. We end up appreciating each other and it totally helps the kids not to depend too much on mom, meaning to say be independent and sociable with others. Laaaf it!

    Riana x
    mrianaester.blogspot.com

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